Love Bug: Does he loves me or not?
I was listening to Davao City’s iFM this afternoon and spent an hour on the Comfort Room that is headed by one of the cute-voiced Dj’s of the said station. I was entrecard dropping that moment and I’m now totally hooked with the issue as I can somehow indirectly relate to the problem that the feminine letter sender is experiencing as-I-write.
The girl going by the name Tia has a decent problem with one of her crushes, or her only crush in this case who goes by the name Ryan and is her first love, even if they are not committed but are friends only. The guy has been acting close to her, kind, sweet, caring and all other characteristics that a boyfriend might show to her girlfriend. Even if to emphasize once more, that they are friends only.
The mind bugging question/s:
Does the guy love the girl? Or doesn’t? Is the letter sender really in love with the girl? What should the sender Tia do now?
It has somehow struck me, at some point, since I can relate to the situation she’s in and I just felt like picking up the phone and dialing the number to share my thoughts on air like I have plurked about moments before I went live. And the advice of mine is as follows:
It’s still her choice, if what she believes is easier. If she thinks that letting go and moving on is the right choice, then so be it, but she should carry the thought and have in mind that she might sooner or later regret it when she’ll she the guy who’s named Ryan with some other girl and even more regret the fact that she didn’t fight for her feelings. At the other hand, she could take the extra step and let the guy know that she loves him and that she wonders if he (Ryan) is feeling something that special in return for her, but she also have in mind that she might be rejected and that it might be pretty painful as well knowing that Ryan only sees her as a friend.
You don’t experience the beauty of love if you don’t experience pain, either way it might end up positive and negative but I personally would go ahead and ask that person and confront that person and ask if that person is feeling something special too, it’s always the way that I would handle cases like this, because it would be a probably lesser but long term pain knowing that the love has just been there all the time, but you’ve never fought for it.
i’ll be reading more of your poems.. 
keep it up.. 
I’ve experienced this kind of problem, where i *thought* that he likes me. He acts like a boyfriend should be, and this kind of act made me fall for him. I asked him about this and fight for what i feel for 10 months. After 10 months, i found out that he doesn’t love me or likes me. In his eyes, I’m just his friend.
I think Tia should think it for a long time. Your right that it’s pretty painful when you get rejected, but try to wait on his move. When he admits that he likes her, then it’s a good thing that happened to her but if he doesn’t love her, then it’s a sad goodbye!
What a hard situation
I can suggest she keep it but it would hurt the moment she sees the guy with some girl, but it’s better she observe, there maybe chances the guy would fall for her after sometime..
wrong gramming yung title. dapat ‘Does he love me or not’… share lang.. walang magagalit…
ay uu nga pala, about jan sa dilemma ng babaeng yan… wala pa naman ako maxadong experience jan sa love love whatever noh, pero sa tingin ko, kailangan niyang panindigan ang kanyang decision about breakin’ up with pareng RYAN (FC?). Tsaka I think she needs to move on. Eto kasi ang problema ng mga taong mag b-break tapos mga ilang sandali pa malalaman nung isa na lab pa pala niya yung isa. Tapos nang nalaman na niya, meron n palang kasama yung isa. ay naku. sa tingin ko dapat mag move on na xa. She should stand up for what she had done… If she would make ‘habol-habol’ pa to that Ryan dude, I would see her as a whore. sorry for the word but It’s what i think.
Hey, nice post, very well written. You should write more about this.
When I read this post, I remember about song lyric:
“Lie to me… say that you need me”
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I think i’ve seen this somewhere before…but it’s not bad at all
At some level, we all know intuitively what’s going on. I think Tia should listen to her inner voice before making any decision.
Guys can be strange creatures. Hopefully ‘He is just not into you’ will give her some insights as for how to read signals correctly.
Funny, I just published a Haiku on Associated Content this morning called Love Bug and I came across your article this evening.